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I used to be a pack a day smoker and totally out of shape (like WAY worse than now...so this is relative). Now my identity has shifted to consider athletic activity not just as something I do for a goal, but is a key part of my identity.
I'm more of a believer in "stress makes you stupid" than "pressure makes diamonds".
(I can't remember if I answered this already.) I'm a good teacher, but for some reason that really hasn't mattered to me as much as it should. I am not good at auto mechanics, but have always wanted to learn to fix cars.
I set up a reward for myself...like if I do X then I will let myself do Y.
Coming home and seeing Karin - of course! The sushi dinner helped too!
I pay my dad's cell phone bill. It's nice to give something back.
Any of my dad's brothers. Uncle Bob never says anything negative.
I got into a PHD program MSU.
"Cocktail Hour" on our back deck.
The Wrath of Khan
I am looking forward to my research assistant positions and taking some interesting courses. I am particularly excited about Social Psychology!
The biggest obstacles in my life have been those that I set-up for myself. For example, I thought I wasn't smart enough to go graduate school for years... and years. And was terrified of applying and not getting accepted anywhere. Finally, last year I overcome the mental obstacle I'd put in my own way and applied.
It is hard to think of something that you're good at and don't value, because it is likely that you don't think about this much... one thing that comes to mind is that I am a good swimmer and I don't really value that skill too much. Something I am not good at but wish I was is being patient.
If I really don't want to do something, then self-reinforcement is my go to strategy. I will bribe myself with Starbucks, cookies, a day off, etc.
I had a great conversation with someone from Colorado who came to Lansing for grad school and never left.
1. Not going to law school
2. Quitting my corporate job to teach
Went to Mardi Gras with four friends -- drove there in a Ford Focus over night and shared a king bed.
Thru-hike of Colorado Trail
Being here, pursuing a PhD
Got into grad school
Received research award from my MSU Denver
Highline Canal with my dog and my husband.
- Great story about relationship between daughter, mother, and father; could relate to main character and process of leaving home...
The Leavers by Lisa Ko
The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy
This semester has made me very hungry for our next stats course. At one point in time, I understood statistical concepts in much more depth than I currently do! In life, I am excited for my new position starting in a couple of weeks and always excited for the bustle of the first few weeks on campus!
A bit of a slower pace as I learn how to balance the program with work.
Two obstacles that I have overcome that have been especially relevant during this course is my deep fear of public speaking (still hard, but manageable) and learning to take risks in learning (tied to perfectionism and fear of making mistakes). The past couple of months have caused me to really pull on my courage and "trust the process" 🙂
I do not like pressure but I understand the need for it.....
Art - Because it comes naturally for me, I doubt its goodness. I wish I could memorize things easier.
Using rewards that help me do better overall - If I get this thing done within a specific time frame, I can go for a 30 min walk with the dog....that and a healthy dose of anxiety keep me moving 🙂
I got to see my 6 nieces and nephews that have been traveling for the past 20 months, playing is good forf the soul!
Working for a record label and tour manager
Travel and work with a rock band.
Conquering my fear of public speaking and developing the ability to teach
Father in law
A former non traditional student came to see me and is now advising at a community college and told me about the impact of our work together and how it has informed her work with students. She was very specific in what worked, what mattered and why.
Walk paired with reflecting by water to practice mindfulness
Cynthia Jackson Elmoore - She pushed me to do things I had no idea I could do, she was a role model for me for how to be a woman in higher education and encouraged me - she showed me how to offer really clear instructions with high expectations to motivate amazing performance.
The Infinite Jest - David Foster Wallace
You've Got Mail
Dr. Brene Brown